Looking for ways to make the most of the longest night of the year? There are plenty of ways to celebrate the solstice and revel in the darkness, whether you decide to get cozy in bed or adventure outside. The Winter Solstice asks us to be patient, slow down, and sit comfortably with our longing and anticipation. It is a day meant for getting intimate with yourself and nourishing your soul. With a little help from massage candles, lube, and your very own body heat, you can warm and nourish your mind, body, and soul.
Turn It Off
Start by turning your devices off and putting them in another room. Sit with the silence of the night, knowing that you won’t be disturbed by that early-evening Slack message or late-night text from an ex. This is your time; it will all be there tomorrow so don’t worry about missing the things that can wait.
Make It Hot
Whether you draw yourself a hot bath or plunge into a natural hot spring, adding water to your solstice ritual will ease the tension from the day (and the hectic holiday season), allow you to settle into your body, and warm you from the inside out.
Studies have shown that warm water boosts circulation and promotes better sleep. The trace minerals found in hot springs have some function in the human body and the human body can absorb these minerals in trace amounts through skin. If taking a bath, consider adding Epsom salts (magnesium helps promote sleep and soothes sore muscles) and add essential oils like sandalwood, neroli, and cinnamon, which are known as aphrodisiacs.
If you are enjoying a hot spring, you should save the intimacy for a more private place, but the privacy of your own bathtub is a whole different story. You can tease yourself or a partner with your fingers or a waterproof vibe, but save the sex for when you towel off. Water washes away all lubrication (even if it’s your own), which can make sex uncomfortable or even painful.
Get Lit & Rub It Out
Candles are one of the easiest ways to set the mood, and what better way to honor the long and sultry night than with an erotic massage using warm wax from a massage candle.
Make sure you allow the skin-safe wax to cool for a minute before you get to pouring and always ask your partner what temperature feels good to them. Then start massaging as normal – long, slow movement up and down muscles. Don’t go straight to erogenous zones; help your partner relax first. Once you’ve both settled in, you can start teasing and massaging the breasts (save the nipples for later). Touch the inside crease of their thigh, rather than going straight for the clit or penis.
Once you’ve teased them long enough, you can take things to the next level with digital penetration, a vibrator, or oral sex. Consider multiple forms of touch as you penetrate your partner and have them touch themselves. Make sure you have plenty of candles on hand for the post-session cuddle that you both will need.
Get Into Position
While some of you might be celebrating with 108 sun salutations, we’ll be getting into that downward-facing dog or happy baby pose for a whole different reason. With so many hours of darkness, there’s plenty of time to work your way up to the most magical winter solstice orgasm. You may not have a problem easily orgasming, but if you do, or if you are looking for something to elevate your experience, you’ll want to reach for that bottle of Après Delight on the nightstand or in your Dopp kit. With just a few pumps on your clitoris and vulva, Après Delight increases blood flow to the genitals, enhances sensation and pleasure, and decreases dryness. It makes your orgasms out of this world. With a little bit of our full spectrum CBD intimacy oil, you’ll be able to see and feel the sun, the moon, and the stars on the winter solstice.
Exploring our sexuality and digging deeper into what fuels our most intimate desires allows us to break free from some of the more traditional rituals and explore all of our senses on such a special day. We hope you find joy in your body in whatever ways you choose to celebrate the Winter Solstice.